The use of online dating sites has increased greatly in recent years. It is now considered an efficient, safe (as long as reasonable precautions are observed) and interesting way to narrow the field and meet potential partners. It’s not just for the young, but it’s becoming popular with seniors. Read some tips that will help bring success, while reducing frustration and hurt feelings.
1. Your profile:
It’s important to upload pictures of yourself as part of your profile. Many site members won’t respond to a message or view from someone who doesn’t provide a photo. Upload recent pictures of yourself – your true image will be found out sooner or later! Even though you’ve lost some hair and acquired some wrinkles, a photo can tell more than words. When filling out profile questions, answer honestly. As you write your personal profile and statement about what you’re looking for, take your time and write a sincere, refreshing write-up. Let your personality and interests shine through.
2. Searches, matches, views, messages and flirts:
These are the ways you can locate possible compatible dates. Do a site- wide search on your own choosing to view those profiles that look promising. The site computer gives you several possible match-ups periodically. You can then check their profile out and see if you are interested. Save or delete people who view you. Take a close look at photos and person profiles. They can reveal some interesting clues about the person’s personality and attitudes. Be open in respect to age. When you reach senior status, even wide age differences can lead to compatibility.
When you’ve found someone who looks like a possible match, send a short message or a flirt to them. Most site users seem to prefer a message rather than a flirt. This can start an online dialogue, and quite often a date in a neutral location is agreed upon.
Site members shouldn’t forget their manners. If you receive a message from someone who doesn’t interest you, send them a courtesy message thanking them for their interest. Inappropriate comments in a message don’t have to tolerated. There’s a way to report this and a way to block unwelcome members from your personal site.
4. Handling messages:
At times you may become frustrated and disappointed with the exchange of messages. For example, if you send a message of interest to someone who hasn’t logged on for several weeks, they may be dating someone in the real world, they may be on vacation or they may have “gone fishing.” In another case, you may have been exchanging messages with someone for a week or so, and suddenly they stop; they may have found someone else. It’s probably best to chalk it up to experience and move on to others.
5. Unique characteristics of senior sites:
The users of senior dating sites have a variety of reasons for searching for someone. They also have unique needs. Some are looking for a marriage partner, yet others just want serious or casual relationships. Others are more interested in a travel companion or just a good friend to share life with in their remaining years. Both the divorced, the widowed and the never marrieds may still have unhealed wounds from the past. It’s best not to be too judgmental before meeting and talking to them in person.
The first meeting:
It’s wise to have the first meeting or two take place in a neutral public place. Take reasonable safety precautions after meeting. Never give out personal information on the site. Keep the conversation casual and friendly. This isn’t the time to pour out your emotions about your past.
Registering for a senior online dating site is a good alternative for seniors to find someone to share their lives. It opens up the field of possible companions for this segment of the population. It takes patience and diligence to find someone compatible, but there are more and more stories of success. It’s worth a try!